These extra dynamics can be frustrating, but should not be ignored or overlooked.
Pressuring your children to like your date and going too fast for them to get comfortable with the situation, will create unnecessary trouble.
Of course it is, as long as you do it responsibly, and your children are not disrupted by your dating.
Single parent dating involves finding a quality person you like, who likes you, and who is comfortable with your children.
Parental Dating Guidelines • Make sure you know a lot about any new person before inviting him/her into your home.• Make friends before considering a romantic relationship.• Always introduce new adults to your children as friends, nothing more.• If your children are old enough to have opinions of your new friends, listen to what they have to say.• Do not pressure your children to like your new friend, or to spend time with him or her.• Insist that your children behave appropriately and politely to your adult friends.• Have regular family discussions with your children.• If you want to get serious with a date, find out his or her feelings about children, especially your children, first.• Gradually introduce a new date to your children by doing family oriented activities together.
Give your children and your date a chance to develop their own relationships.• Don’t sacrifice your children's alone time with you to your dating.
Wise singles recognize this important dynamic and don’t assume that becoming a couple necessarily means that they can become a family.
Liking a parent’s dating partner sometimes creates a loyalty problem for kids: They don’t know how to embrace everyone and not hurt feelings (especially the other biological parent).To maximize safety, choose group activities, daytime activities with the children along, and stay in public places until you establish your date’s character.Meeting other single parents at PTA, church, and school or sports events is a great, non-threatening way to begin.Smart singles take a good long look in the mirror before dating.Smart single parents don’t let their children’s emotions dictate their dating progress, but they do listen and give serious consideration to how the children are feeling (becoming a couple is up to you; whether you become a family is up to them).