‘You wouldn’t introduce yourself to someone in a bar with your entire life history, so don’t do it online,’ says match.com‘s Kate.‘Women have a tendency to write too much because we enjoy reading long profiles. Imagine you are doing an icebreaker introduction where you have to sum yourself up briefly.’ Most people want to find someone who can make them laugh, so show people you have a sense of humour.Normally, on Hinge you're free to use whatever opening line you want — it shows you mutual friends and interests then gives you a blank canvas to write whatever you want. But for one month, Hinge gave a random 22% of users the option to use a clever prewritten opening line in addition to writing their own messages. They then tracked which of those prewritten lines were most likely to get a reply, using the data to determine which lines worked best based on gender, location, and how fast you sent a message after getting a match. Even if you do like “walking on the beach” or “drinking wine in front of a roaring fire” leave it out – everyone says that.Think of something interesting that could be a conversation starter.In a recent poll, we found that 96 per cent of people would rather see a big, happy grin in a profile photo than a sexy pout. One of the most frequent complaints about online dating profiles is “they may have looked like that once but they certainly don’t look like that now”.Looking better in the flesh is better than the reverse.
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You’ll come across as condescending and judgmental. Don’t pretend to have a better job than you do, or that you’re more prepared for long-term commitment than you currently are. Be concise, clear, and watch out for typos and grammatical errors. Related to #6: Don’t be too vague or use too many clichéd phrases. Be careful to screen your photos, too: Don’t upload a pic of yourself in front of your new home, for example. Don’t list the qualities you believe you “deserve.” Instead, focus on what you have to offer. If you can’t put the time into filling out a simple dating profile, why would anyone assume you’d put the time investing into getting to know them? My friends could better answer this for you.” Good luck!
Don’t bite the hand that might be feeding you your soulmate. You don’t need to share all your dirty little secrets in your profile, but you shouldn’t use deception to lure dates either. Never list what you’re looking for money-wise or baby-wise in a relationship. Everyone likes “having fun” and would list their musical tastes as “eclectic.” You’re certainly not the only person who “can’t live without oxygen, friends, and family.” Fill your profile with details that reflect you as an individual. Related: Don’t provide a list of dating rules or expectations — unless you don’t want anyone to contact you.
Avoid negative tones and always be positive about yourself. You wouldn’t want a future employer to read anything negative, so why would you want a potential partner to read anything that isn’t positive?
Lying doesn’t get you anywhere in the dating world. Talk in specifics to give a full flavour of who you are.