Meaning I have objectives that I try to meet with each message that I send.
Objective 1: Prove that you read her profile This is by far the most important objective, I would think female’s are looking for a guy that actually invested the time to read her profile before he decided to send her a message.
So, as you can see, it doesn’t really have the same ring, or appeal to someone searching on how to write a good first message for online dating.
Here are a few screen shots of a few of the last messages I sent out. And if it doesn’t, that’s fine, I get it, the attractive guy who just writes “hey” will get a response, only because he’s attractive.
So now I’m going to share with you how I craft my messages that I send on online dating.
I don’t know if I’m exactly qualified to do this, because my response rate is about 15%, but I consider myself above average emotional intelligence and understand, at least in theory, what women would like in first message. And like anything in my life, I probably approach sending messages on online with a little too much “engineering”.
There is nothing worse than reading a joke that isn't funny and then having the fact that it isn't funny, but that somehow someone else thinks it is, explained to you.
If your joke isn't funny to that person, it's either a) not funny at all, or b) not funny to him/her. In the middle of this city you're walking around in, surrounded by thousands and millions of people walking, you fear you might be the only one who likes walking?