The stigma is gone — and don’t listen to anyone who disagrees. Today, my clients zip their credit cards to the tune of anywhere around 0 to 0 (though I spill 144 pages of easy, actionable advice in my new book, for those on a budget). To be completely corny and completely honest, these sites and apps can help you find the most important person in your life — and they all require some sort of profile (yes, even a series of photos counts).That goal alone, though, can be paralyzing, giving even writers writers’ block and above all making the majority of profiles…let’s just say lacking the personality they so desperately need.So online dating — on a site, an app or three, or both — is a no-brainer.It expands your dating pool exponentially, opens you up to new experiences and people, and pretty much the entirety of the single (and some of the not-so-single) population is doing it. When I launched my business two and a half years ago, I had no idea what the response would be like, so I charged for a complete makeover. This is your romantic life that we’re talking about.
Don’t fall in love with someone based on their profile.
On apps that don’t require much writing Don’t try to summarize yourself in something the length of a tweet or two. Use something that you’re actually interested in and turn it into a tweet length, one-liner, or quick story — think upbeat or even funny. Don’t have expectations, put your phone away, and don’t hype dates to the point of nervousness.
“I sing Bob Dylan in the shower and Robyn in the car” or “I lived in a houseboat for three months…until it sank. I just moved to dry land.)” or even a quote from your favorite TV show (Tom Haverford from Parks and Recreation is a personal favorite: “When life gives you lemons, you sell some of your grandma’s jewelry and go clubbing”) says something about you and helps spark conversation. Bad dates are good stories (that happen to help you learn something about yourself), and remember: it only takes one good date…
While it's tempting to keep checking your email at night to see who else is interested in you, you might not be giving that special someone the chance you both deserve.
At the end of the digital day, the need to love and be loved is so powerful and universal.