Generally, the pressure to split up comes from the family since, after all, in China, marriage is a family affair.
There was one Chinese boyfriend who told me, flat out, that his parents would never accept me.
Average Chinese men tend not to earn big salaries in China, unless they are, for example, bosses, high-powered execs, or an in-demand talent.
And if they are to leave China to go to her country, they will face even more obstacles to earning money — language, culture, prejudices.
CFL is like a tidal wave of American men in love with Chinese women, with only a rare American woman/Chinese husband surfacing to break the monotony. Several years ago, when my husband enrolled in a New Oriental class in Shanghai for GRE prep, the instructor warned all of the Chinese men: “If you’re going to study abroad, prepare for four lonely years.” The underlying message was, don’t expect to fall in love — but be pleasantly surprised if it happens.
The experience was so traumatic that he never sought another foreign girlfriend again.
On the flip side, I suspect that some foreign women might be unwilling to give Chinese men a chance because of money.
Sure, he’s an online boyfriend who lives halfway across the world – but he’s the best guy who’s ever come into your life. According to a 2013 study by the market research firm IBISWorld, nearly 35% of married couples met online.
However, with that increased trust in the online social experience to find a future partner comes an increased risk that you’ll come across a shady character who is not exactly what he makes himself out to be.